Watch me duke it out over Same Sex Marriage on BabyCenter!

Uh-oh folks.  The gay marriage debate is heating up everywhere.  Teen child stars and political doofuses from coast to coast are yapping their chops talking all kinds of crazy about gay marriage and how it is "wrong" and (excuse me, I have to bust out LOLing) an "abomination".  Yeah yeah the bible says it, blah blah blah.  The bible also sanctions slavery.  Why are so many people not willing to question what we are "taught"?  How is it that so many people just take what is fed to them and assume it is the only truth?  I find it so baffling that in this day and age people are still trying to push their beliefs onto others. 

In learning about codependency and reading "Codependent No More", by Melodie Beattie, I have learned that we cannot control others, and in trying to do so, we end up being the ones who are controlled.  I bring this point of view to the gay marriage debate.  Why are people so concerned about how others are living their personal lives? I am quite sure that 99% of these judgemental people have their own issues to tend to. That being said, I do believe everyone is entitled to their opinion. And I'm entitled to mine. I am not trying to force gay marriage down anyone's throat just as I don't want anyone trying to shove straight marriage down mine.  But not granting loving humans equal rights is an action, not an opinion. 

For more debaucheries and debate see my BabyCenter posts here! I present in comments #24, #29, and #40.

Cheers!

Setting Boundaries

One of the things I have learned through Al-Anon and reading the life-changing book, "Codependent No More", by Melodie Beattie, is the need to set boundaries with people in my life.  Specifically,  my soon to be ex.  If I give him an inch he will take a mile.  If I talk to him about anything beyond our daughter, things will quickly escalate into an out of control mess.  It is so serious, that I have decided that I must set clear boundaries with him. I will only speak to him regarding our child and money matters.  This is all that's left of our relationship, after all.  But I find myself regressing back to old patterns of either a) bitching at him about x, y, z or b) wanting to share something about my day with him, as we used to when we were together.  I have found that doing either one of these things does nothing but open doors that should remain closed.  It is hard having a good or a bad day at work and not sharing it with him.   He's the first person I think of to tell when something significant happens in my life.  But he is no longer my confidant.  I have to break the habit of talking to him about anything other than business. Isn't it crazy that someone I once shared everything with, body and soul, is now reduced to business matters?  Has anyone else had issues establishing boundaries?